Why Stare at me ? Nov 2010

Back in 2009, I was walking straight in the corridor, with a cup of coffee. A pair of young couples in 20s was turning out from escalator, and the boyfriend was paying lots of attention to his girlfriend.

Next, Minor Collision happened, the guy hit my coffee-cup, and few drops spilled onto floor and luckily my shirt is not stained.


I was silly to drink coffee while walking in a shopping mall. Somehow unaware myself, my eyes was looking at the floor with drops of coffee and also glancing pass the guy, and if there was a smile or gesture, I would have smiled back too.

Maybe my look seemed unhappy, next thing is the staring incident.

The young guy ran slowly from behind to my side while i had walked pass him.

He then rebuked me like threatening me:
Q: "Why you stare at me ?"
(Before i can chat with him about just now...he asked again)
Q: "Why, i cannot afford to pay you back coffee is it ?"
(Again, before i can communicate with him...)
Q: "You .blah blah blah blah.."
(No choice, i decided just to say...) I: "I apologise..."
Q: "You .blah blah blah blah.."
(Better to apologize again, and think of strategy later) I: "I like to apologize..."
Q: "You .blah blah blah blah.."

Then proudly he ran away and back to his girlfriend

I was then more shocked than earlier :)

No grudge about the past, but just my comments for above incident:

* Sometimes a stare was incidental or unaware of self, and it is an ice-break away from a smile or hi gesture.

* Next time, i may just block my eyes with my hand and say "Sorry", or if provoked, I may ask "Are you looking for trouble ?"

* The staring incident is a win-lose situation. "Why stare at me ?", it can be followed by a series of questions:
Example:
"I stepped on your shoe. Why stare at me ?", then "You think i cannot afford to pay your shoes ?". then "*@&* #*@&", then "@8*@ ...@*..."

The staring incident was in 2009, and it reflects Young school dropouts are stressed.

If one is with no first-time experience, and first-timer, beware. I used to think staring incidents happen only at clark quay, boat quay or mohd sultan. but it happened nearer to me than i expect, caught up next to me.

(The above article just for your reading pleasure)

Other starring incidents happening since 2009 till now:
2010-Nov, Downtown East
2010-Nov, Bt Panjang Jelapang and Fajar